Write Your Own Wedding Vows

how to write your own wedding vows

The big day is fast approaching – and you still don't have a clue on how to write your own wedding vows! Whether you avoid expressing your feelings like the plague or just don't have the talent with the written word, just relax: writing personalized wedding vows can be an easy – even fun! – task that will give you the opportunity to let the world know just how much you love your future spouse. With these tips and techniques under your belt, you can bet that there won't be a dry eye in the room on the day of your nuptials.

So without further ado, here's some expert advice on how to write your own wedding vows:

Clear Your Head

Before you can even begin to get all of your thoughts down on paper, clear your head of all of the advice that your friends and family members have given you.  Turn off the phone for a couple of hours, sit back and really tune your mind so that you're focused on your partner, and only your partner. Put on some comfortable clothing, like a bridal sweat suit outfit, to get into the right mood. Let all of the stress from wedding planning sink away as you get in touch with why you decided to marry your future spouse in the first place.  This exercise will put you in the right state of mind for when you finally put that pen to paper.

Ask Yourself These Vital Questions

Before you start on those vows, ask yourself a few questions about your relationship with the love of your life. What is the best characteristic about your partner? What was it about your partner that made you desire to marry him or her? Are there any favorite memories or stories that occurred with your partner? Hopefully, these questions will hit upon a theme or story that you can incorporate into your vows, making it much easier to write down.

Read A Few Wedding Vows

Still not inspired?  Head online and search out some famous wedding vows, or glance at a few famous love poems to get the juices flowing.  Remember, wedding vows aren't supposed to be gems of literature – they should be personalized, meaningful and above all, representative of the relationship that you have with your loved one (just like your bridal clothing should be unique).

Stick With What Works

If you and your partner have laid-back and humorous personalities, make sure that your wedding vows reflect your relationship. Unnatural-sounding wedding vows will seem impersonal, and you might even feel awkward reciting them.

Don't Start With The First Sentence

It's advice that every writer will give to those who are struggling with an opening sentence – just put your pen to paper and write. Don't worry about the opening paragraph until you're approaching a final draft, as it might take some time for the first few sentences to form in your head. Start off writing a funny story or memory, and let your wedding vows flow. Remember, the more authentic your wedding vows sound, the more memorable they will be.